“Hey Laura, you and Jason make the most adorable babies I have ever seen. Are you planning anymore?”
This question sequence happens so frequently. Strangers come up and tell us this. Now I LOVE hearing how cute my kids are. No joke it’s one of my favorite things about taking my kids out in public. People come up to us constantly and tell us that (hey, please don’t stop either)! When Eyan was a baby I had this really awkward lady approach us and say “I don’t like babies, but I have to tell you that yours is the most beautiful baby I have ever seen!” Emberlynn constantly draws a crowd. I’m not kidding, if I’m carrying her, people approach me in droves to engage her and ask about her. I seriously do not mind at all either. These two humans are my everything; they are reflections of Jason and I and I truly believe they got the best if both our genes.
But getting these two perfect, beautiful, amazing people was hard. It’s no secret that I’ve had some pregnancy losses. My pregnancy and delivery with Eyan almost killed the both of us and although Emberlynn’s was much easier it was still high risk.
Jason and I had agreed upon 2 children prior to getting married and firmly after Eyan was born, Jason said “two and I’m done.” So number two is here and we are all healthy (thank God)…so are we done? Firmly, YES! Sorry ya’ll, this is unfortunately not going to be a pregnancy/baby blog forever…even though I really wouldn’t mind having just 1 more.
Jason took the official (and almost heart wrenching) steps and had a vasectomy. I can’t say I am 100% happy about this but I do know a few things:
1. We have 2 healthy kids and 2 healthy parents…some call it the “perfect” family because we have 1 boy and 1 girl. I don’t know about perfect, but we’re completely happy.
2. Jason grew up poor (I grew up privileged but not rich). He wants to be able to give his kids everything he never had. He relishes in being able to go to the store and allow our kids to pick out a toy without worry. Or take a vacation to more than just the mountains. We want our kids to be cultured and world travelers. With just 2, that is completely doable. The world (American world albeit) is built for smaller families of 3-4 as well.
3. Neither one of us want to be “older” parents. Nothing against those of you that have children in your mid 30’s and beyond. Jason and I just wanted to be done with kids by the time he was 30…he’s 32. We want to travel, enjoy our days growing old, our grand kids and hopefully great-grand kids!
Now I have been asked why I did not get my tubes tied since the docs were in there anyway? Couple reasons…first, the hospital I delivered Emberlynn at will not do that unless it is an emergency. Second, it does not have a good reversal rate (yeah we considered and looked into that if the unnerving need arises). Third, I have seriously considered surrogacy. I probably wouldn’t qualify due to my history, but I’ve always been intrigued and amazed by the families and women that do this. If the right situation came along and I could gift someone my baby oven temporarily, I would.
So here we are…officially done. So tell me, any pros or cons to this decision?